all that glitters

jessicalouise:

Anyway. If a girl is going to get her tits out why doesnt she just be honest about liking the attention?

Also? Why is everyone re-blogging this and taking issue with it? Nowhere in my post did i mention girls with big breasts whose breasts are just so big they can’t help but accidentally showing a bit cleavage. Cause obviously there’s a difference between that and getting them out on purpose.

Because it’s PRETTY FUCKING PRESUMPTUOUS, not to mention sexist, to just straight up assume that someone is showing cleavage because they “want attention” and “like the attention”?

That’s seriously one step away from the “She deserved it, look what she was wearing!” argument. Seriously. “She wanted it, or else she wouldn’t have dressed that way!” Are you listening to yourself? This feeds into an idea that women’s bodies are public property and not our own to control — or that we must hyper-control ourselves because the boys “just can’t help themselves.”

I’m not saying that women never, ever dress because they want male attention. But let’s be real here, women are, um, complex human beings with different motivations and reasons for doing things. Acting as though women are some sort of hive mind is demeaning.

There’s also the statement you make that “if women don’t like the attention then they should cover up”. Why should I change my behavior because someone else is being an asshole? I realize “that’s the way it is”, but I sure as hell am going to fight for it not to be. We women might as well just say “Fuck with it” and wear burqas if some men are going to use the tired old “biological imperative” excuse to forgive themselves for acting like jerks.

Also, you say “Why not just wear a T-shirt?” I’ll tell you why: that might be fine on the weekend, but what about, um, during the workday? It’s hard to find professional looking clothes for curvy girls.